We attempt to create security by trying to control our external circumstances, by making the safe and “responsible” choices, but the consequence often is turning our back on our passions, our excitement, our intuitive knowing, and our heart's calling.

We are attached to the idea of safety, but our understanding of what it is, is confused.

We think it means following in other people’s footsteps even when it isn’t authentic.

We think it means trusting in the expert’s advice over own intuition.

We think it means assuring our future with savings, employment, marriage, and other similar external representations of security.

When really, it is something completely different.

This isn't to say that all these choices are bad things, or that there aren’t times when making the safe choice is the best choice, but it is to say that in many cases our uncomfortability with the unknown is unconsciously driving our decisions and controlling our lives.

When we feel deeply insecure in uncertainty we try to run from it, hide from it, and cover it up in money, relationships, jobs, places, and situations that are familiar. We often hold on to these things even if they aren’t aligned anymore, even if they hurt, even if they’re uncomfortable, because they feel safe.

They feel safe even if they aren’t safe.

They feel safe even if they hold us back.

They feel safe even if they aren’t what we actually want.

The illusion of safety is when we choose to stay in a relationship that we know doesn’t work, that we know isn’t aligned, that we know doesn’t make us happy, because it’s more comfortable than being alone.

The illusion of safety is when we turn from our passions, our purpose, and our calling to follow a traditional career path, because it is “the responsible thing to do”.

The illusion of safety is when we try to control as many details of our lives as possible so as to force things to go in the direction we desire.

We cling on to this false idea of safety because it seems much better than the overwhelming vastness of life’s mystery. Of the unknown.

We have learned to make decisions based on mental ideas of “what is right,” “what is responsible, and “what is safe,” instead of from our hearts.

Trusting more in logic and reason than our own inner knowing!

The problem is that the heart’s knowing is often unreasonable, and that the mind is programmed by old fear-based consciousness, social expectations, and the paths already walked.

The mind can be telling us one thing while the heart is telling us something completely different, but because we are a mind-centered culture that does not know how to deal with the unknown, in our grasping on to reason for safety we disconnect from our bodies and our hearts.

It means that we have come to trust only in what we can see and “prove” in front of us, closing ourselves to infinite posibilites and to the divine intelligence that lives within and without.

When we create a life from this consciousness we end up choosing our partners, our jobs, our careers, our hobbies, our entire life because it made sense. Because, it was the logical thing to do. Because, it was safe.

And, often this is the very thing that leads to a life of dissatisfaction, emptiness, and disconnection from self and source.

I’ve seen this illustrated many times with people that I’ve worked with who have made the decision to change and to heal. They start therapy, or start meditating, or have a strong psychedelic experience, and soon start feeling confused because they go home and realize that they don’t feel aligned with their partner anymore. Or, their job. Or, where they live.

All of a sudden something that had been a part of their lives for years feels wrong because they have come back to their bodies and hearts, and realize that what they authentically desire is actually something completely different.

Unfortunately, this means that many people never actually get to know their full potential or experience their true hearts desire because they don’t dare to step out of what is known.

The truth is though, that the kind of safety that we try to create through control and taking “the safe route” is actually not even real. It doesn’t actually exist.

Life is unpredictable. We don’t have control over the way things unfold, or what happens. We can’t force things to happen just because we want them to, and we all know this because at one point or another we’ve all tried to force things into manifestation.

Trying to create safety by checking all the boxes of what it means to be a “responsible and successful adult” never actually results in us feeling safe, because deep down we know that even then anything can happen.

From one second to the next, everything could fall apart.

And, the feeling may be buried deep within, but there still is a subliminal layer of fear and anxiety vibrating into everything we create and choose.

Truly this means then that our fear of the unknown becomes the driving force that keeps us in familiarity even when it is far from what our true potential actually is.

And this is a cost much too great to pay.

So then, how can we create safety so as to release ourselves from this limitation? If having the savings account, having the relationship, eating the right foods, buying the house isn’t real security, then what is?

True safety is something that we discover and cultivate within. It is not a circumstance or anything that exists in our external reality but an inner state of trust, surrender, and faith.

For it is only in diving into the unknown without holding on to anything that we can give the universe the opportunity to show up for us. To show itself. To catch us.

And when we have this experience, when we dive into the unknown, leave the marriage, leave the job, make the move, and discover something much more beautiful, something greater, waiting for us on the other side, in that moment we remember.

We remember that life was always guiding us, always watching us, always taking care of us.

We remember that the universe is alive, is intelligent, and is loving.

We remember that we are not alone.

We remember that we are wise and we can trust ourselves.

We remember that we don’t have to hold onto anything for safety because life itself is holding it for us..

This isn’t something that can be understood. It is something that has to be experienced and felt. To jump and be caught. To do the crazy thing and realize it was the wise thing. To trust when it doesn’t make sense, and receive so much abundance on the other side.

It is in taking that leap of faith, doing the brave thing, choosing your heart’s truth and seeing life catch you on the other side that you discover what real safety is…

You no longer just conceptually understand that the universe supports you, but now you feel it in your body because you experienced it.

If you do this enough times then something inside of you changes, and you create a new inner reality.

An inner reality in which you feel connected to everything around you.

An inner reality in which you know that you are always exactly where you need to be.

An inner reality in which you feel safe because you know that you can handle anything that comes, and even more than that, know that you are not alone in anything that is to come.

Faith is real safety.
Trust is real safety.
Surrender is real safety.

This is an essential part of the new paradigm, the new consciousness that is being birthed on the earth. It is a consciousness in which we make decisions from the heart, soul, and inner knowing versus from reason and the mind.

It is a consciousness in which we feel deeply connected to life and in full trust of the guidance and signs we are given.

It is a state in which most importantly we feel strong and secure in our own wisdom, in our own knowing, in our own capacity.

Because, essentially it is an awareness in which we recognize ourselves as more than these bodies, we recognize ourselves as eternal spirits and thus know with our whole heart that our own soul will never steer us in the wrong direction.

It will never place us in front of something we cannot handle.

It will never take us away from our truth, for it is our truth.

This is what it means to no longer feel alone. To know that you are accompanied in every decision that you make by your own inner compass, and by the divine wisdom of life itself.

This is how we can become friends with our fear. It is by learning to embrace it, be with it, dance with it, look it right in the eyes, and accept it as a natural part of being alive, that it stops holding us back.

That it stops having so much power over us.

It is feeling safe in your resourcefulness, your strength, and your wisdom. Knowing that you are connected to your soul, and to life. Knowing that even if fear tells you the unknown is dangerous, that all you can find there is more of life and more of you.

When a feeing of security blossoms from within, you no longer feel the need to control your outer circumstances.

You feel safe to follow your dreams and your heart’s calling.

You feel safe letting go of people, situations, jobs, and circumstances that are no longer aligned with you.

You feel safe blazing a new path.

You become interdependent with life in the realization that you are a part of something much, much greater.

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